To everyone calling Kim Kardashian a bad role model, you’re not exactly Gandhi yourself
So, wives columnists who spew bile about other women have gone to conflict with a woman who posts selfies on social media. If these are their options , no amaze girlfriends today are so miserable
I speak in many newspapers last week that Kim Kardashian is the worst role model ever and got her comeuppance in Paris. Is this true ?
Sally, by email
Yes, down with Kim! This was surely the consensus among the commentariat, and by commentariat I make specifically rightwing female columnists with panicking byline photos. Now, as all readers of this article surely appreciate, anything that is written next to a terrifying photo byline of a female correspondent is, by nature, the word of God. So it somewhat flummoxed me to subject such paroles written by others. I horror this may be the correspondent equivalent of intersecting the brook, and yes, that is the second Ghostbusters reference in as numerous weeks, youre welcome.
As Im sure you all already know, last week Kim Kardashian was held at gunpoint and cheated of thousands of pounds worth of jewellery while she pleaded for their own lives. What a shameful legend, Im sure youre all theory. Poor woman, youre doubtless saying. I hope shes OK, were all desire. Or, perhaps , not.
How much do I detest Kim Kardashian? Make me count the ways, was one columnists response to this tale, knocking off her article there and continuing as it started.
I wonder, another correspondent mused, if there was a fleeting moment, as she lay tied up on the lavatory storey, when a minuscule articulation inside her manager expected the nagging, sickening doubt: have I raised this on myself? Its certainly the route this particular columnist takes such evident exuberance in dreaming Kardashian bound and dreading for their own lives on the storey that explains why shes paid the big bucks, isnt it?
Sweetly, both sets of scribes make sure to include a hurried, token Of direction, you wouldnt wish an armed robbery on anyone, but its hard to hear the accuracy of the following statement over the shriekingly loud BUT connoted at the end of that sentence.
Lets demonstrate a few home truths here. Is Kim Kardashian a stupid person? No skepticism. I have written about the aforementioned ridiculousness myself many a time. Is she a bad role model to young women? Yes, maybe, if not quite as awful as one columnist is seeking to acquire her, tying her, somewhat awkwardly, to the recent Guides survey about the number of members of young girl with low-spirited self-esteem. And here is where you should discover the thunderou BUT in this column.
No matter how stupid Kardashian is, “were not receiving” excuse in gloating over her being tied up and terrorised in her inn chamber. She is not Osama bin Laden. She is a young woman who has made an enormous amount of money by flogging herself to the public. A crime against humanity that is not. And if “ve been talking” bad girl role models, if youre a high-profile female columnist and you make a living by sneering at other women being held at gunpoint, well, lets just say youre not exactly Gandhi yourself, are you? A lady posting selfies on social media versus women who spew bile in national newspapers about other women: if these are their options , no amaze girlfriends today are so miserable.
And lets talk about the gender point here, shall we? Yes, Kardashian does show off her resource on social media and, yes, it is absurd. You know who else does that? Many, numerous, numerous followers. Kardashians spouse, Kanye West, for one. That bloviating Oompa Loompa Donald Trump is another. All those saddos on Instagram who take photos of their auto, or watch, or flash holidays. And while they might be giggled at, there isnt the same outlook that they shouldnt do it, that theyre transgressing a line, that theyre asking for something bad to happen to them, because we are dont talk about followers like that. They do, however, talk about wives like that quite a lot. Women who are victims of revenge porn are told they shouldnt have mailed naked photos of themselves; women who are crimes are asked to prove they didnt dare to alcohol booze, or have sex at some time in their lives, or go out wearing anything other than a burlap sack. Kardashian, according to these columnists, raised her robbery on herself by photographing her jewellery. Im of the school of thought that, when a crime is dedicated, the only person responsible for it is the actual offender. But maybe Im only old-fashioned.
Sticking with gender for a moment longer, its interesting that, in all the clucking over Kardashians personal life in these aforementioned editorial, one characteristic exits almost completely unmentioned: that she is a mom. Personally, I dont subscribe to the bullcrap belief that motherhood defined under a woman, but at least one of the following options columnists does. Certainly, I once had a dialogue about it with her when she was representing that whole Andrea Leadsom( who ?) nonsense during the summer. Oh saintly motherhood, how it demonstrates a woman profound empathy! Unless, it seems, if that lady is Kim Kardashian. Or, for that are important, particular columnists with children who seem fairly fond of knocking a woman when shes down. What was that about motherhoods profound impact?
I frankly cant imagine Ive only written a whole article representing Kim Kardashian on feminist grounds, a woman I believe to represent so much better that is absurd about our age. And hitherto, it seems, necessitates must. Because thats the thing about feminism: even if you dont like the status of women, youre genuinely fond of women, and you try to do right by them.
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